Making the most of your visit

Making the most of your visit:

1. It’s all in the timing
   Try and visit in the middle of the day. Evenings can be quite difficult for residents in care homes as they often become tired and agitated. Neither of you will get the most out of a visit at the end of a day, so avoid that slot if you possibly can.

   
   

2. Call ahead
   The last thing you want to do is turn up to a home with a jigsaw puzzle to do together when your loved one doesn’t want to get out of bed. Ask the staff what to expect and you can come prepared.

   
   

3. Think about how to best greet your loved one
   As dementia progresses, and the person spends more time living in the past, they will probably respond better if you use their most familiar name. Being called Dad or Grandad might confuse them so you may have to get used to using their Christian name if that puts them at ease.

   
   

4. Let the person living with dementia lead the way at the visit
   Ask them if they would like to sit in the lounge or their room; if they would like tea or coffee; if they would prefer to have a stroll around the inside of the home or the outside. They need to feel valued and independent.

   
   

5. Try to turn off background noise
   Loud environments can be disorientating at the best of times but for someone living with dementia, being confronted with a blaring radio in one room and a loud television in the other can be especially confusing.

   
   

6. Take along a four-legged friend
   The positive benefits of stroking a dog cannot be over-estimated – and are even more beneficial for someone who has perhaps lost some of their communication skills.  

   
   

7. Go outside
   Fresh air and a walk are good exercise whatever your age – just tailor how strenuous it is to the right level. A gentle stroll in the park or to a nearby shop.

   
   

8. Bring some jobs that need doing
   Maybe you have got some peas that need shelling or some flowers that need arranging. This will give them a real sense of purpose and give you both something to talk about.

   
   

9. Bring someone along to your visit – even if they can’t make it in person
   Get them to record a video message, write a letter, send some pictures or speak over a video call.

   
   

10. Do a project together that you can pick up on every visit
    Like knitting a scarf, following a tapestry project or making a collage. You will both have something to look forward to then.

    
    

11. Carry on with routines
    If you both used to read the papers over breakfast or on lazy Sunday mornings, carry on doing just that. Take two copies of the same newspaper so that you can talk about the articles that interest you both.

    
    

12. Play a game
    It’s easy to think that just because someone isn’t communicating well that they can’t play Scrabble, or bridge or whist. You might just be surprised!

    
    

13. Virtual visits  
    Our teams are dedicated to helping residents stay connected to the people they care about no matter what, and we can help facilitate virtual visits for family members or friends who aren’t able to visit in person. Speak to your local home to find out more.